by Linda Cavuoto
WE DO NOT SEE THE WORLD AS IT IS, WE ONLY SEE THE WORLD AS WE ARE
PERSONAL COUNSELLING
You are unique
This service is to take you on a journey of self discovery. We will be working together
to determine your unique self or temperament from which life is viewed and your unique characteristics which include your strengths and weaknesses, what you are like under stress, what you are like in intimate relationships, how you relate to God, what you fear, the jobs/vocations/tasks you are best suited for and your deepest emotional needs.
We all have emotional needs but different temperaments have different emotional needs.
We will also go through your history which contains your hurts, learned behaviours, copying mechanisms, perceptions, rejections, subjectivity and identify any false identity messages given to you throughout your life which shaped your identity. We behave out of our identity and our identity controls us. The major impact to our identity comes from our
family of origin, extended family members and other figures of authority such as school teachers, peer friendships and love relationships. What happens in the family of origin will have a profound impact on every future relationship. When we discover our emotional identity we begin to see how we act and why we act in certain ways.
Our unique self and our history makes us totally unique and all of life is interpreted through that uniqueness.
What you believe rules you.
PRE-MARRIAGE AND MARRIAGE COUNSELLING
The emotional Divorce
Couples reach a point of emotional divorce long before physical divorce. The majority continue to live together with minds that run from divorce and emotions that run towards separation.
We start at a point of oneness in a marriage or any relationship but after living in close proximity we begin to irritate each other due to the two invisible bags we all carry with us (our unique self bag and our history bag). The collision of the four bags is what causes misunderstandings, conflicts, explosion and collisions. As a couple we begin to spread apart and start looking at our partner through the lens of our personality and our past to a point where the mind and emotions are moving in opposite directions. At this point we are in constant conflict between our thoughts and emotions thus bringing us, as a couple, to an emotional divorce.
To bring the couple to a richer place of oneness again, the couple will need to empty all four bags, go through their belief system and understand each other's deepest needs and uniqueness.
The same process applies in pre-marriage counselling except I will be working with the married couple to be aiming to avoid them reaching the point of emotional divorce.
CHRISTIAN DISCIPLESHIP
Change our mind to what has already been changed
Man was created in the image of God. Like God we think, feel and initiate but sin came along and distorted these characteristics and brought death to our spirit. The results of this death are lying emotions and thoughts, unbelief, mistaken identity, idolatry, self- centeredness and death. During the discipleship I want to bring clarity and perspective to your past to help you move forward in freedom by bringing the truth of who you are in Christ.
God has given us a unique self that causes us to relate to our environment differently to everyone else. Our unique self includes our God-given talents, abilities, intellect and temperament. There is not another single person in the universe that can express Christ through their mind, will and emotions like you.
The purpose of discipleship is to disciple you into Christ and to find out your true identity in him, your uniqueness which brings you to a place where you are comfortable in your own skin and you begin to enjoy how God wonderfully created you.
AFFAIRS, POSTTRAUMATIC STRESS AND ADDICTION RECOVERY FOR COUPLES
Hope
The pain experienced by an individual or couple when dealing with an affair, post-traumatic stress or addiction recovery can be intense and at times unbearable.
Recovery is a time of transition and return to a normal state of mind, health or strength. During this period, any increased stress to the individual or couple can lead to a greater risk to the relationship and impact recovery time. It is therefore crucial for both partners to share and understand the importance of their current state of mental and physical health.
In the course of these sessions I will be providing tools and interventions to increase understanding and communication, establishing appropriate boundaries and healing together, from an affair, post-traumatic stress and addiction to achieve a balanced and fulfilling lifestyle.